Thanksgiving is around the corner.
And let’s face it, it’s a time for gratitude and turkey but it can also serve a slice of anxiety pie.
The pressure to host the perfect dinner, navigate family dynamics, and ensure everything runs smoothly can lead to overwhelming stress.
Fret not; I compiled a list of do’s and don’ts to help you navigate through this Thanksgiving anxiety.
This will help you have a peaceful, joy-filled holiday.
So, grab a cup of cocoa, cozy up, and let’s dive into the fun do’s and don’ts of the holiday season!
The Do's of Holiday Anxiety
1. Dance like no one is watching
Picture this: you, the kitchen, and your favorite tunes. Dance your stress away while whipping up those mashed potatoes.
Who cares if you’re in your PJs? It’s a party, after all!.
2. Delegate and Share Responsibilities like a Pro
Hosting the holidays doesn’t mean you have to do it all alone.
Don’t hesitate to delegate tasks and share responsibilities with family and friends. Assign specific duties such as setting the table, preparing side dishes, or handling desserts to certain people.
Let your guests shine by assigning them roles. Uncle Matt can carve the turkey, Aunt Teresa lead the table games, and cousin Karina can handle dessert.
Superheroes unite!
Remember, teamwork makes the dream work!
3. Set Realistic Expectations:
Acknowledge that perfection is not the goal.
Set realistic expectations for the day. Accept that things might not go as planned. Embrace the imperfections; they often lead to the most cherished memories.
Focus on creating a warm, inviting atmosphere rather than striving for flawless execution.
Burnt pie? Lumpy gravy? Laugh at your culinary adventures.
Remember, it’s not about perfection; it’s about the taste and the fun you had creating it!
4. Practice Mindfulness and Deep Breathing
When anxiety creeps in, practice mindfulness techniques and deep breathing exercises. Take a few moments to ground yourself in the present. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and focus on the sensations of your breath.
Mindful breathing can help calm your nerves and bring a sense of tranquility.
5. Take a Breather
Feeling overwhelmed? Sneak away for a moment of peace. Whether it’s a quick walk outside or a space in the house with less people in it, take a breather to recharge.
Your sanity will thank you.
The Dont's of Holiday Anxiety
1. Don't Overcommit
Avoid overcommitting yourself to multiple events or tasks.
It’s okay to decline invitations if you feel overwhelmed. Prioritize your mental and emotional well-being and choose activities that align with your comfort level.
2. Don't Compare Yourself to Others
You all know how the week of Thanksgiving showcases a lot of different posts with people celebrating with their family.
Showing off their awesome decorations.
And showing their food.
And showing the fun that they are having.
BUT, I am going to tell you this.
PLEASE resist the urge to compare your Thanksgiving celebration to others’.
Instagram may showcase flawless feasts, but remember, filters don’t capture chaos. Social media often showcases curated, idealized versions of events.
Remember that every family has its quirks and imperfections.
Your Thanksgiving, with all its quirks, is the real deal. Own it!
Embrace your unique gathering and focus on the love and connection shared with your loved ones.
3. Dont Aim for Perfection
Again, accept that perfection is a myth. If the cranberry sauce resembles modern art or the tablecloth has a gravy stain, embrace it! Laugh at it. Imperfections are what make your Thanksgiving uniquely yours.
Be kind to yourself. Don’t criticize or judge your actions.
If things don’t go as planned, it’s okay. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding you would offer a close friend. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s more than enough.
So what if you accidentally put salt instead of sugar in the pie? Laugh it off! Your guests will appreciate your humility, and hey, it might become the stuff of legendary family stories!
4. Don't Overthink Conversations
Worried about awkward family chit-chat? Keep it light and fun. Everyone loves talking about pets, hobbies, or the latest binge-worthy series. No politics or heated debates at the table, please!
5. Don't Hesitate to Seek Support BEFORE the Holidays
If anxiety becomes overwhelming, don’t hesitate to seek support from a friend, family member, or mental health professional.
Sharing your feelings can provide relief and perspective, reminding you that you are not alone in your struggles.
In conclusion, navigating Thanksgiving anxiety requires a balance of self-care, realistic expectations, and mindful choices. By embracing the do’s and avoiding the don’ts, you can create a Thanksgiving celebration that is both joyous and anxiety-free.
Remember, the essence of the holiday lies in gratitude and connection – everything else is simply a side dish.
Wishing you a Thanksgiving filled with love, laughter, and peace of mind!
Kindly,
Sabrina Valdivia
Spiritual Holistic Limited Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Coach
With a wealth of experience spanning more than 10 years, I have become a guiding light for those struggling with low self-esteem and anxiety, helping them rediscover their inner strength and self-worth.
My journey into holistic therapy and life coaching began as a personal quest for healing and self-discovery and a spiritual background from my determined single mother.
Having faced my own battles with low self-esteem and anxiety during my younger years, I intimately understood the challenges that many young women encounter in their lives.
This personal struggle ignited a passionate flame within me, inspiring me to delve into the realms of spirituality, self-help, and holistic healing modalities.
To read more about my story, click here.
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